I have decided that there is no perfect way to open this blog, than with a childhood photo of my first and only mullet in 1992. |
Yes, ladies and gentlemen: unfortunate though it is to admit, this particular picture is in fact of yours truly. I was half way through third grade at this point -- my hair had already grown out a considerable amount from its initial so-short-it-stands-straight-up-off-of-my-head buzz cut -- but my pink Tamagotchi t-shirt and ruddy-faced smile say it all: I am clearly very proud of myself. Honestly, long ago though it may have been, I remember the sequence of events quite clearly: I woke up one morning, lustrous strawberry-blonde locks (this photo does not do the colour justice -- I am in fact naturally straw-coloured-blonde) down to the middle of my back, and decided, hey; anything boys can do, girls can do too. And so I informed my mother that I needed a hair cut. And then I forced the (clearly distraught) hairdresser to shave my childish head. I walked out of that hair salon happy as a clam, red lollipop clamped firmly in my mouth, with a new breeze blowing against the freshly-shorn back of my neck.
I remember this haircut specifically, not only because of the standard "Are you a boy or a girl?" comments I got from my classmates (and what I consider, for a 3rd grader, to be a snappy response: "I was a girl yesterday, what the heck do you think?"), but because around that time was the real moment I became my "über-jock" self. Or, perhaps, I just like to think this is so -- maybe I'm unfairly paralleling the physical androgyny with the stereotypical "butch" culture of female jock-ism.
I was the ten-sport athlete in high school: basketball (which was and has been my primary sport); volleyball; European handball; shotput; javelin; discus; wrestling; swimming; cross country; water polo. Throughout junior high, I played volleyball, soccer and basketball at a competitive level (I was on all three provincial teams at one point) and I also did Olympic weightlifting (although not competitively) through my teen years and through university. Junior high was only eight sports -- basketball, volleyball, soccer, cross country, shot put, javelin, discus, badminton -- but at one point I was balancing three different basketball teams, one soccer team and two volleyball teams at once (I still have no idea how my parents got me from place to place). My mom says when I was three years old, she already had me in four dance troupes at once: jazz, tap, ballet and contemporary. Even that, she says, was rarely enough to keep me "busy", so through the summers (and the majority of the preschool years) I was enrolled in children's gymnastics, "activity" camps, and swimming lessons.
It was only as I passed further through, and eventually past, my pubescent years that I really started to notice the stereotype of "jockette" culture from other people. In fact, that word itself makes me irate: there is no such thing as "jockette". A jock is a person, of any gender or creed, who centralizes their lifestyle around their sport(s). A jock is someone who wakes up at 4:45 AM five days a week to get their ass handed to them on a basketball court; a jock spends at least an hour a day in the physio room nursing various injuries (and I mean REAL injuries, not just "Oops, I fell over... that scratch must mean it's broken."); a jock lives in that "fresh out of the shower because if I didn't shower before I came to see you, you would be able to smell me from across the street" look. Actually, take a look at me right now: I will bet money (and no I did not dress this way on purpose) that I am wearing a ponytail and yoga pants. And no, it is not just because I'm lazy and I like the forgiving nature of elastic waistbands (although that is a lovely bonus) -- in all likelihood, I sprinted straight here from a 6:30AM workout and only had 15 minutes to shower before I had to leave. And guess what? I'm not even eligible for varsity anymore. The jock instinct is so strong in me, the masochism has stuck with me even in my old age. And THAT, my friends, is what we call true commitment to a cause.
But off of my soapbox (for the moment at least). Female jock culture has long been affiliated with butch lesbian culture, and unfairly so. That's not to say that there aren't butch lesbian jocks -- hell, there are tons of them! In my illustrious career alone, I have played basketball (or another sport) with: butch lesbians; lipstick lesbians; bisexuals; straight women; straight men; gay men; FTM trans people (who had to wait until her varsity eligibility ran out before he could start getting surgery and hormone treatments); and a whole host of others. My point? The same people that you see around you in this classroom, in this school, in this city: they all played sports with me. Or they all didn't. The point is, the sport didn't change them in any way. But try to tell that to the close-minded masses? Yeah, right, they tell me. They laugh; they scoff. And then they say, "Look: if you're not a total out-of-the-closet raging bull-dyke, then you're in a relationship of convenience. I mean, you can't possibly tell me that you're straight. Come on, girl; just look at you."
Okay, then: let's look at me. Let's look at all the stereotypical jock "features" that indicate that I am in love with women.
Exhibit A: Me in high school.
Point one: I have a ponytail. Point two: I am naked from the waist up and you cannot see the hint of my boobs from the back. Point three: I am palming leather balls (that's what she said). Point four: I am imitating the Michael Jordan "Wings" poster (see here). Clearly, this makes me a budding lesbian.
Exhibit B: Me in university; or, "The Homo Takes Hold".
Note the significantly increased musculature. Note the unchanged ponytail. Note the more masculine grip of the basketballs: clearly this indicates dominance. According to Freud, I am holding the balls away from myself in a display of disgust for all things masculine. ...or something. Also, there are once again no boobs. All obvious indications of queerness! Quick, hide your children and small pets before the raging bull dyke attacks! No one is safe from its anti-estrogenic powers!
This was how cool I felt. My look did not match that level in the slightest. |
I remember this haircut specifically, not only because of the standard "Are you a boy or a girl?" comments I got from my classmates (and what I consider, for a 3rd grader, to be a snappy response: "I was a girl yesterday, what the heck do you think?"), but because around that time was the real moment I became my "über-jock" self. Or, perhaps, I just like to think this is so -- maybe I'm unfairly paralleling the physical androgyny with the stereotypical "butch" culture of female jock-ism.
I was the ten-sport athlete in high school: basketball (which was and has been my primary sport); volleyball; European handball; shotput; javelin; discus; wrestling; swimming; cross country; water polo. Throughout junior high, I played volleyball, soccer and basketball at a competitive level (I was on all three provincial teams at one point) and I also did Olympic weightlifting (although not competitively) through my teen years and through university. Junior high was only eight sports -- basketball, volleyball, soccer, cross country, shot put, javelin, discus, badminton -- but at one point I was balancing three different basketball teams, one soccer team and two volleyball teams at once (I still have no idea how my parents got me from place to place). My mom says when I was three years old, she already had me in four dance troupes at once: jazz, tap, ballet and contemporary. Even that, she says, was rarely enough to keep me "busy", so through the summers (and the majority of the preschool years) I was enrolled in children's gymnastics, "activity" camps, and swimming lessons.
It was only as I passed further through, and eventually past, my pubescent years that I really started to notice the stereotype of "jockette" culture from other people. In fact, that word itself makes me irate: there is no such thing as "jockette". A jock is a person, of any gender or creed, who centralizes their lifestyle around their sport(s). A jock is someone who wakes up at 4:45 AM five days a week to get their ass handed to them on a basketball court; a jock spends at least an hour a day in the physio room nursing various injuries (and I mean REAL injuries, not just "Oops, I fell over... that scratch must mean it's broken."); a jock lives in that "fresh out of the shower because if I didn't shower before I came to see you, you would be able to smell me from across the street" look. Actually, take a look at me right now: I will bet money (and no I did not dress this way on purpose) that I am wearing a ponytail and yoga pants. And no, it is not just because I'm lazy and I like the forgiving nature of elastic waistbands (although that is a lovely bonus) -- in all likelihood, I sprinted straight here from a 6:30AM workout and only had 15 minutes to shower before I had to leave. And guess what? I'm not even eligible for varsity anymore. The jock instinct is so strong in me, the masochism has stuck with me even in my old age. And THAT, my friends, is what we call true commitment to a cause.
But off of my soapbox (for the moment at least). Female jock culture has long been affiliated with butch lesbian culture, and unfairly so. That's not to say that there aren't butch lesbian jocks -- hell, there are tons of them! In my illustrious career alone, I have played basketball (or another sport) with: butch lesbians; lipstick lesbians; bisexuals; straight women; straight men; gay men; FTM trans people (who had to wait until her varsity eligibility ran out before he could start getting surgery and hormone treatments); and a whole host of others. My point? The same people that you see around you in this classroom, in this school, in this city: they all played sports with me. Or they all didn't. The point is, the sport didn't change them in any way. But try to tell that to the close-minded masses? Yeah, right, they tell me. They laugh; they scoff. And then they say, "Look: if you're not a total out-of-the-closet raging bull-dyke, then you're in a relationship of convenience. I mean, you can't possibly tell me that you're straight. Come on, girl; just look at you."
Okay, then: let's look at me. Let's look at all the stereotypical jock "features" that indicate that I am in love with women.
Exhibit A: Me in high school.
Point one: I have a ponytail. Point two: I am naked from the waist up and you cannot see the hint of my boobs from the back. Point three: I am palming leather balls (that's what she said). Point four: I am imitating the Michael Jordan "Wings" poster (see here). Clearly, this makes me a budding lesbian.
Exhibit B: Me in university; or, "The Homo Takes Hold".
Note the significantly increased musculature. Note the unchanged ponytail. Note the more masculine grip of the basketballs: clearly this indicates dominance. According to Freud, I am holding the balls away from myself in a display of disgust for all things masculine. ...or something. Also, there are once again no boobs. All obvious indications of queerness! Quick, hide your children and small pets before the raging bull dyke attacks! No one is safe from its anti-estrogenic powers!
My eyeliner says femininity but my moustache says Ron Jeremy. |
Of course, as we can clearly tell, lesbianism (and transgenderism, and homosexuality, and the massive list of other 'isms') bothers me not in the slightest. In fact, being called a raging bull dyke doesn't bother me either (I repeat the term because apparently it is the sole label people know how to use. Honestly, if you're going to gay-bash me, at least pick up a thesaurus first). I'm comfortable with my sexuality as a hetero female and to be perfectly honest, no one would say this to my face anyways because I'm big enough to draw and quarter them with my own bare hands. What does irk me, though, is that just because I play basketball -- and just because I am the quintessential jock, who didn't own an underwire bra or a woman's undergarment of any kind until first year university, and didn't wear my hair out of a slicked-back ponytail from fifth grade until age 19, and didn't wear a dress from grade 2 until high school grad -- I am a lesbian. And all others like me are therefore lesbians. In fact, while I was playing with SFU, a friend of mine on a local Christian university team once shamefacedly admitted that her team fully believed that all but two of us were either lesbians or in relationships of convenience. The one girl they thought was straight had a 26-inch waist and natural DDs; the other had been (unfairly) rumoured to have slept with half of the men's basketball team and was now (supposedly) slowly making her way through the ranks of football.
This was my uniform. You think I'm joking, but I literally owned (and wore) no other clothes than those given to me by sports teams (and that included sports bras and spandex for underwear). |
...ahem. Sorry. Tangent finished, I promise. (Well, for now.)
A big part of it, though (the lesbian stereotype, I mean) is, I'm quite sure, based in my physique. Me, I'm of the "statuesque" variety: muscular, thick-waisted, tree-legged, long-limbed, ape-handed, and obscenely tall. Far from androgyny, this physique makes me appear more masculine, plain and simple: I carry traits that most women would stereotypically attribute to men. My voice is a deep, throaty baritone; my posture, when seated, can be stretch-legged to obscenity (which is why I wear clothing with closed crotches, like pants); and the way I walk has been unflatteringly dubbed "dominant" on more than one occasion. If I were to enter roller derby, my nickname would be Glamazon. As it is, given my last name (and my affinity for picking up missed shots around the basket and plugging them home for extra points), numerous sports columnists have affectionately nicknamed me "the Black Hole". They mean it as a compliment to my apparent talent. It does, however, nothing to help prove my stereotype wrong.
In fact, physical features have come into play a great deal with female athletes, and not just to do with their sexual preference. Different sports, of course, have different body types: speed skaters have enormous quads; volleyball players are lean and magnificently tall; wrestlers are short, stocky, and incredibly well-muscled in their upper bodies; swimmers have a distinct v-taper that no other sport can match. All of this has to do with the type of training these athletes do in order to excel at their sport: gymnasts need to be as strong and aerodynamic as possible, so they mould their bodies into two-by-fours; ballet dancers need to be lifted high in the air and be as bendy and willowy as weeds, so they stretch and dance their way into stick insects; speed skaters and bobsledders need thick, powerful quads to push off of start lines and cut through ice, so they do squats and dead lifts and box jumps until they can't help but buy gappy-waisted jeans. And yet, outside of a token few sports -- beach volleyball being the most prominent of these -- the physiques of female athletes are not generally considered sexually attractive to men. Their musculature, their androgyny, their supposed testosterone -- all of it contributes to this sort of ball-shrinking perception that female athletes are like female body builders, hopped up on steroids and ready to pound any errant penis into oblivion should it come anywhere within scenting distance.
Yes, there are the Anna Kournikovas and Maria Shaparovas of the world -- but outside of blonde European tennis stars, what successful female athletes do we really have as sex symbols? People like Kim Kardashian are heralded for loving their curves -- and their enormous asses -- but where is the love for Serena Williams? Girl's got a booty on her! And not just genetics (although GOD DAMN is she blessed in that department), but actual hard physical labour. This woman trained her ass off (on?) to be successful at tennis. And yet when pictures of her surface in all of her natural glory -- such as the one seen below -- she gets called a man, or an errant-lesbian-gone wild, and the gates to keep fans back from the tennis courts suddenly seem more necessary to keep the beasts within down and away from human flesh.
And so, what does Serena Williams do? Well, first she does the respectful thing: she comments publicly in the media that she is comfortable with her body and people should respect her for it.
But, of course, as tends to be the unfortunate (fortunate for some) act of many of these scrutinized female athletes, they decide that they must prove their sexuality -- and by this I mean sexual attractiveness -- in order to prove their worth. If a male athlete is called fat or ugly -- hell, he just continues playing the game and lets it go (has anyone looked at Shaq lately?) because it holds no bearing on the quality of his athletic performance. In theory, the same is true for female athletes -- doesn't matter if you got a few extra whacks with the ugly stick (heck, doesn't matter if you got beat over the head with it!), your talent is your talent, pure and simple. Until you're a famous female athlete. And you are told you are unattractive. And then you have to go and do this.
It seems, at its most basic, that heterosexual female athletes -- or female athletes of any sexual denomination -- have to in a broad sense OVERCOMPENSATE on femininity; that is, they have to RE-PROVE that they are in fact women, as their athleticism seems to have done the opposite. When we go out day to day, we of the Nike Creed have to wear more makeup, have nicer hair, smell better (for god's sakes!), and overall act more feminine than our non-athlete counterparts in order to be considered as "female" as they are. And even then, we're still seen differently: according to the (infuriating!) masses, we do things that women shouldn't really do (and we can get away with it, which is apparently the worst part). And so what do I have to do? Put on my hooker hoops, a pair of stilettos, and a Snooki-sized dress and go out dancing and bellini-drinking with my girls to remind everyone that I do, as a matter of fact, have a functioning vagina. Actually, scratch that -- I can't wear stilettos, because I'm already eight feet tall. So I have to wear flats. To look less like a man. Or a butch lesbian, for that matter. Because I play basketball. And other sports. Otherwise, because I'm an athlete, people will either think I'm gay or I'm smuggling bananas.
Seriously? No one sees the flaw in this logic? No wonder people voted for Bush.
I've probably ranted enough by now (although my rising bile tells me I am not yet finished) and I suppose I can bring it down to this: the stereotype of the female jock is one of a very butch lesbian (or pseudo-man) who has happened to find a semi-productive outlet for all that testosterone she shouldn't really have. The only way for said stereotypical dyke to prove herself of hetero benefit to misogynistic society is to either strip and show the goods (and they better be good) or to start working that uterus like a Ford factory assembly line. Why is this so? Perhaps because people are scared of women who are physically dominant -- women who appear that they can hold their own in a bar fight, or toss a bale of hay into the back of a truck bed, or show a hint of a six pack without massive fake boobs to offset the cut lines. Will it ever really change? I don't know; honestly, I don't think so. I mean, let's be honest: people were worried women were going to "turn into men" if they played sports as late as the early 1900s. And this was when girls were still supposed to ride sidesaddle... and women's basketball teams dressed like this.
This is from the SFU website. I don't think they could have used less attractive pictures for the background. Thanks, internet! |
Don't do drugs, kids. Just don't. ...please. |
Yes, there are the Anna Kournikovas and Maria Shaparovas of the world -- but outside of blonde European tennis stars, what successful female athletes do we really have as sex symbols? People like Kim Kardashian are heralded for loving their curves -- and their enormous asses -- but where is the love for Serena Williams? Girl's got a booty on her! And not just genetics (although GOD DAMN is she blessed in that department), but actual hard physical labour. This woman trained her ass off (on?) to be successful at tennis. And yet when pictures of her surface in all of her natural glory -- such as the one seen below -- she gets called a man, or an errant-lesbian-gone wild, and the gates to keep fans back from the tennis courts suddenly seem more necessary to keep the beasts within down and away from human flesh.
GRRRRRRAWWWWRRRRR. |
And so, what does Serena Williams do? Well, first she does the respectful thing: she comments publicly in the media that she is comfortable with her body and people should respect her for it.
BOMB DIGGITY. |
Ah, yes: the infamous naked photos. Didn't Sports Illustrated, or GQ, or Hustler or Playboy or something have a "hottest female athletes" article recently? Don't they have it every year? Didn't Anna Kournikova top it for a handful of years, despite never winning a major and eventually dropping out of tennis altogether? Isn't she still a household name? I bring this back, then, to my previous point about how every one of the Christian basketball team players thought my team was wholly gay, except for the slut and the hot one. You know, because she's hot, and she's open for business, so that means she's not gay. But since I'm not Playboy material, and I keep my legs squarely placed inside of my pants (for the most part) then I am clearly gay as Christmas. And not in the fun way, either -- in the "Oh, it's all that weightlifting, I bet bulking up jumped her testosterone too much and her body couldn't handle it. Too bad, she could have been good as a skinny-housewife-type."
So either I get naked to prove my heterosexuality -- which I did, or at least half-did, but apparently in the completely wrong MAN-ner (sorry, couldn't help myself) because no T & A was involved -- or I get married and pop out a brood of happy little ducklings. You know, follow in Hayley Wickenheiser's footsteps: win multiple gold medals (including the Olympics), prove my insane talent as a women's hockey player, remain without human credibility (probably due to my propensity to short Mom haircuts) until I push my toddlers around the ice on mini-skates and prove that I am actually of procreate-able benefit to hetero society. I'm not saying that's why she got married and had kids -- clearly not -- but it seems to be the only way she can prove herself as a woman. Hey, look guys, her ovaries are still intact! She can get pregnant! DEAR GOD, ALL IS NOT YET LOST!
It seems, at its most basic, that heterosexual female athletes -- or female athletes of any sexual denomination -- have to in a broad sense OVERCOMPENSATE on femininity; that is, they have to RE-PROVE that they are in fact women, as their athleticism seems to have done the opposite. When we go out day to day, we of the Nike Creed have to wear more makeup, have nicer hair, smell better (for god's sakes!), and overall act more feminine than our non-athlete counterparts in order to be considered as "female" as they are. And even then, we're still seen differently: according to the (infuriating!) masses, we do things that women shouldn't really do (and we can get away with it, which is apparently the worst part). And so what do I have to do? Put on my hooker hoops, a pair of stilettos, and a Snooki-sized dress and go out dancing and bellini-drinking with my girls to remind everyone that I do, as a matter of fact, have a functioning vagina. Actually, scratch that -- I can't wear stilettos, because I'm already eight feet tall. So I have to wear flats. To look less like a man. Or a butch lesbian, for that matter. Because I play basketball. And other sports. Otherwise, because I'm an athlete, people will either think I'm gay or I'm smuggling bananas.
Seriously? No one sees the flaw in this logic? No wonder people voted for Bush.
I've probably ranted enough by now (although my rising bile tells me I am not yet finished) and I suppose I can bring it down to this: the stereotype of the female jock is one of a very butch lesbian (or pseudo-man) who has happened to find a semi-productive outlet for all that testosterone she shouldn't really have. The only way for said stereotypical dyke to prove herself of hetero benefit to misogynistic society is to either strip and show the goods (and they better be good) or to start working that uterus like a Ford factory assembly line. Why is this so? Perhaps because people are scared of women who are physically dominant -- women who appear that they can hold their own in a bar fight, or toss a bale of hay into the back of a truck bed, or show a hint of a six pack without massive fake boobs to offset the cut lines. Will it ever really change? I don't know; honestly, I don't think so. I mean, let's be honest: people were worried women were going to "turn into men" if they played sports as late as the early 1900s. And this was when girls were still supposed to ride sidesaddle... and women's basketball teams dressed like this.